Jack’s* first thought was one of shock.
“Huh? What do you mean my outfit is distracting? What do I even do with that information?” he thought as he sat across from his boss in a feedback meeting.
He’d been pulled aside about a work thing. But the chat ended in a weird interaction about his daily attire in the office.
“You need to be conscious of how your presence in a room can have an effect on other people,” the boss said.
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Jack is a pretty ordinary Melbournian 30-year-old. He’s slightly taller than the average bloke, is confident and likeable, and gets on well with his fellow insurance brokers.
There’s no dress code at work, but everyone sticks to a similar vibe; professional and corporate.
“We’re not talking ties, but it’s a collared shirt and a suit pant every day kind of office,” Jack told Mamamia.
Confused by the comment, Jack asked his boss for some examples and was pointed towards his third button. He liked to leave it undone.
“I have a bit of chest hair, but is anyone really getting distracted by a couple of centimetres of chest hair? It made me think ‘am I going crazy?'” Jack explained.
His boss expanded on his point. “It could take away from the message you are trying to convey professionally,” he explained.
Jack didn’t really respond – telling the man, who was only a few years older than him, that he’d “think about it” before leaving the chat perplexed.
“I could understand people getting feedback about dressing too casually, but I fit the mould in terms of corporate attire. So I was thinking, is this valid feedback? Is this what other people are thinking too? Do I need to take this on board, or can I discard this feedback?” he told Mamamia.
His colleagues (both male and female) were equally as shocked, “Really? That’s never crossed my mind [about you],” one of the women said.