I’m not ashamed to admit I’m a diehard Love Island fan, but this week the new Australian season stopped being just a guilty pleasure.
Instead, it just left me feeling a little guilty.
Monday night’s episode started out on a real high with promise of a more diverse cast than the one we were presented with in 2018.
This time around the line-up included Cynthia, a West-African woman from Brisbane.
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As soon as the show kicked off Twitter lit up with positive tweets from people watching, some black and some white, who were all rooting for Cynthia and applauding the show for being more inclusive after last year’s very white cast.
But then the coupling-up portion of the episode started.
The first coupling ceremony of Love Island is based on looks and looks alone.
One by one five single males enter the villa and select the woman they would most like to couple up with, without any conversation, based purely on their “type”.
One by one the number of un-coupled islanders dwindled. And then it happened. The black girl got picked last and it was heartbreaking.
More than that, it was triggering.
Triggering because it mirrored my real-life experiences and what it is like dating as a person of colour.
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There is no hiding the fact that Cynthia being picked last on the show relates to her ethnicity, and the reality is that dating in Australia, a predominantly white country, for people of colour is challenging.
More often than not you have to figure out whether or not a suitor even “dates black girls” and this means the pool is often very limited.
I’ve had two long-term boyfriends in my life, both of whom are white.
Before meeting each of their parents I distinctly remember asking if they would be OK with their son dating a black girl. It sounds crazy, but this is a genuine concern.
Off-hand comments from people I have met who are in interracial relationships or married talking about their future children and the disappointment they feel about the “muddying” of blood and the likelihood of them not having blonde hair blue-eyed children, stay with you.
There is also this idea of people wanting to “dip”, not date, black. They are down to hang out and hook up one-on-one but nothing more than that because it doesn’t fit in with what their ideal is for the long term.